How is it, that we live in a world where it’s frowned upon when a person chooses not to drink?
Don’t get me wrong, I am not a mormon. I like the taste of wine (the cheap stuff, preferably) and nowadays I’ll have a glass from time to time. But I won’t drink more than one glass and I don’t drink every week, let alone multiple days per week. Most of all, I prefer not to drink for health reasons. But the older (& wiser?) I get, the more I start to dislike this whole culture of binge-drinking just for the hell of it. The more I see it, the less I feel the need to drink myself.
Let’s start with why alcohol is so bad for ya. There’s so many reasons, I’ll just have to pick my ‘favorites’. Alcohol is broken down in the body to simple sugars in a matter of minutes, especially on an empty stomach. Simple sugars make our blood sugar spike & crash. Plus, it’s a boatload of nasty, empty calories. But if only that were the worst of it. Alcohol gets a VIP treatment from your liver, it is granted treatment before food and even before drugs! (Hint: your liver is your primary detoxifying organ, alcohol having all privilages goes to shoes exactly how bad alcohol is for your system). The consequences are that your food get’s digested much slower if at all, nutrient absorption decreases and more energy is stored as fat. Last (but certainly not least): alcohol is very acidic. And we all know by now acidic environments can cause anything from leaching calcium from your bones to giving you headaches and making you feel fatigued often. It makes the bad bacteria in your gut flourish and take over, making you more susceptible to illness & disease.
But what I find even more frightening (yes, more frightening than what I described above!) is the whole attitude surrounding alcohol. Alcohol is not just socially accepted, it is socially expected. We don’t find it odd if the person next to us chooses not to smoke, or chooses not to scarf down a hamburger 5 times a week, do we? But I have found, time and time again, that people are really, really surprised, when you throw them the phrase “no thanks, I don’t drink”. Even though I don’t don’t drink anymore, I still use the phrase from time to time a) because it’s easier to explain why I don’t drink at that particular instant and b) because I like to mildly provoke. It feeds my need for exploring the human brain and sociology. The number of times I have gotten a positive and affirmative response (ah I envy you, that’s so healthy) I can count on one hand. The ‘WHY?!????!!1ONE’s on the other hand, are countless.
Like I said before, I ain’t no saint. I really enjoy having one glass of (cheap-ass) wine from time to time and really savor it. Not to use as a social lubricant, or because I’m thirsty. The thing is, I do get why people drink (smoke, pop drugs, binge on sugar, shop till they drop), I was exactly the same (and that goes for the full list, yes). It is because we think it’s essential for letting go and enjoying life and not be too stringent on yourself. Well guess what, if you drink for the effects of it, or because it’s a habit, you are not enjoying it. You are dependent on it. Cutting all crap out of your diet & life and then re-introducing them slowly, making the drugs (I am talking all drugs; alcohol, pills, cookies, shopping) an occasional treat, then you can genuinly say you are enjoying these substances, and with it, life. I guarantee you, the level of pleasure you derive from life will be much greater without the crutches of alcohol & the like. I speak from experience.
Tell me: what’s your opinion? Do you drink and how/why?
Ps. nowadays when I get the infamous ‘WHY???!1!!?’ I simply reply with: “why don’t you do drugs?”. Seems to do the trick.
Love,
Sabine
hmm, well I don’t drink partly because I AM a Mormon. But I have similar feelings about alcohol as you do. I actually think it can be fine in moderation as well. I have never (ever) drank. I laugh when I get “you’ve been sober your WHOLE LIFE?” It’s like I’m an alien from another planet. But when it comes down to it, I don’t drink for two real reasons.
One, because 6 years ago my brother was hit by a drunk driver on his way to school. The driver had “slept it off,” and then t-boned my poor soccer star of a brother who lost his college soccer scholarship due to his massive injuries.
Two, because it doesn’t fit into my life style. Between my religion and my running/eating healthy it just doesn’t make sense. Why would I want to slow myself down?
What a heartbreaking story Kara, I am sorry to hear what happened to your brother. Yet another good reason to dislike alcohol.
& I agree with you on it not fitting into a healthy, conscious lifesstyle (binge drinking that is, not a glas of red once a week at a restaurant, of course
).
thanks for your comment & I hope you didn;t find the mormon reference insulting. I don;t know, it’s just the first thing I think about when abstaining from alcohol, and mormons aren’t that common where I come from but come to think of it, in the States it’s not that unusual, right?
Not offended at all
Kara, I am so sorry about your baby brother. That’s horrible and exactly why I don’t drink at all when I have to drive.
I, myself, am certainly no saint in many aspects but I don’t like alcohol. At all. I don’t even like the taste that much and the effects aren’t so grande either.
First, I get loud and obnoxious and after that I just get tired, my head hurts, my stomach is upset with me for days and I feel embarrassed over aforementioned loudness & obnoxiousness. Not to mention the damage control when it comes to exercise and eating for the week after.
Even when I was a teenager and started going out, I wasn’t much of a drinker. The best thing ever was getting my license and becoming a designated driver so people wouldn’t bother me about not drinking.
I do drink, but only sometimes. Occasionally I’ll have a glass of good wine with dinner or a few even when I’m going out but to be honest, I could do without most of the time.
SAME. I get pretty loud & obnoxious too (and, so do most people). I am already loud so I don’t need to amplify that haha. I also get drunk/buzzed pretty fast (bc I don’t drink often of course) but it also wears off so fast, that my hangover starts the same evening haha. Epic.
I used to binge drink my way through my teens. As a result (plus poor diet & no exercise) I looked sluggish, felt sluggish, and more often than not, I acted far too promiscuous. blah.
Great read Sabine. Its a constant struggle with me here also. I try to avoid the alcohol as I am not good at savouring rather indulging so I think its best to just stay away all together. But YES in social situations I get so much commentary from people almost like there is something wrong with me for not drinking!! I will keep this article in mind next time I go out : )
Hi Catherine, happy to hear it was helpful
. I found it hard for years to say I didn’t drink, but I am getting more and more comfortable with myself & lifestyle choices each day which makes it easier. Believe it or not, I think most people, in the end, will only appreciate some diversity 
Ik word ook zoooo verdrietig van je te ‘moeten’ verantwoorden. Niet alleen met betrekking tot alcohol hoor, met alles.
,,Hamburgertje?”
- ,,Nee bedankt, ik eet niet bij McDonald’s.”
,,WAAROM NIET?!?!?!”
,,Hier, neem een lekker Cup-A-Soupje.”
- ,,Nee bedankt, ik eet dat niet.”
,,WAAROM NIET?!?!?!”
Laat me gewoon met rust, ik vraag toch ook niet aan jou waarom jij je wel volpropt met antibioticavlees, E-nummers en suiker?
Maar goed, dat is gewoon een algehele frustratie :’)
Ik drink eigenlijk nooit, misschien eens per twee/drie maanden, omdat ik het gewoon niet nodig heb. Ik word ook verdrietig van binge-drinken, maar misschien nog verdrietiger van ‘elke dag drinken om het drinken’. Mijn mama drinkt bijvoorbeeld elke dag drie glazen wijn omdat ze het lekker vindt tijdens het koken, tijdens het eten en als ze op de bank zit. Ze kan ook niet meer zonder, ze is verslaafd zonder een alcoholist te zijn, snap je wat ik bedoel? Ze is ook nooit dronken ofzo, ze drinkt simpelweg elke dag. Zo heb ik ook heel veel vrienden voor wie het heel normaal is om om 15:00 uur (!!!) een fles wijn open te trekken en die gedurende de namiddag en avond helemaal (!!!) op te drinken. Elke dag. Ik kan daar gewoon niet bij, waarom zou je dat toch doen? Ik vind een wijntje op zijn tijd ook heerlijk, maar het is toch niet meer lekker als je elke dag een hele fles wijn soldaat maakt? Naast dat het belachelijk duur is, is het ook nog eens zo zo zo slecht voor je, heel veel mensen beseffen dat niet. Blegh
hahaha geweldig. dat ik een health nut ben weet zo iedereen inmiddels wel dus dat komt nooit ter sprake. overigens heb ik geen probleem met zo nu en dan een kleffe hap, alleen komt het gewoon niet echt voor in mijn leven. nu althans.
dat is inderdaad moeilijk zeg, van je moeder
. dat is inderdaad het probleem van alcohol, zou ze elke avond een joint roken of een pil slikken dan fronst iedereen zn wenkbrauwen dus mensen weten eerder wanneer wat ze doen niet gezond is, en bij alcohol is dat het tegenovergestelde. moeilijk ook, 3 glazen is inderdaad niet dat je zegt dat ze niet meer kan functioneren of lam op de bank ligt, maar veel is het zeker. er zijn genoeg officele websites waar je kunt lezen dat voor een vrouw 1 glas per dag (en niet élke dag) gezond en aanvaardbaar is, en daarboven is het gezond en is het eigenlijk een probleem. misschien zou je kunnen vragen of ze een keer zo een test invult (10 vragen ofzo) en dan kan ze de uitkomst zelf lezen, met tips e.d. misschien dat ze daar eerder naar luistert?
I hardly ever drink alcohol, maybe one or two cocktails when I go out, but most of the time I choose non-alcoholic drinks. I rarely get a reaction like “Why!?”, though. Most people have already labeled me as a “health nut”, as they know that I don’t eat meat but feast on soups, salads, veggie stir-fries, etc instead. So most are not surprised that I don’t order a beer when we go out. The “Why don’t you eat meat?!” questions are much more annoying, actually.
But if they do ask me why I don’t drink I simply answer: “I’m the driver!”. Drinking and driving is an absolute “No way!” in my book!
There are many reasons why I hardly ever drink alcohol. I don’t like the taste of most drinks, I get sick very fast, and I’d rather eat my calories than drinking them. Plus, I’ve seen what alcohol/alcoholism does to people. One of my childhood friends lost his mother that way. :’(
but it’s so sad we need to have some sort of valid excuse (designated driver) to not drink
ps when I drink my immune system pretty much shuts down I’ve noticed. I reckon this is the same for most people but when you built up resistance you don’t notice it no longer
Nathalie, you’re SO right about always having to answer people! This is also the case when I say I don’t eat meat. Or they’re completely surprised I don’t eat fish either!
I can also really imagine it’s easier just to say ‘I don’t drink’, than: ‘I don’t feel like drinking tonight’… but people will be weird anyway.
Some time ago, I got a very interesting question back by the way, when I said I was a vegetarian. The other person asked me: ‘Why aren’t you vegan?’ Like I said, much more interesting.
Sabine, I completely agree with you on the binge drinking, it’s silly that it’s so common in this Western society. But: more and more often research tells us that drinking small amounts of alcohol is actually good for you, for your heart and veins.
It appears to be warding off Alzheimers disease, heart disease, stroke, diabetes, gall stones. It also has a positive effect on cholesterol. It appears that moderate amounts of alcohol on a daily basis can increase the HDL cholesterol (good) and reduce the LDL or bad cholesterol (not that vegan/vegetarian people have a problem with cholesterol, most of the time…). People who have a drink a day on average have a longer lifespan than non-drinkers.
Wine also has flaonoids and nonflavonoids that are antioxidents that are good for the heart and immune system.
So, I think I’ll stick to alcohol every now and then
People are often surprised fish are animals too, it seems.
Thank you for your input Iris! You do bring up good points but I don’t agree on all. For starters, the health benefit of alcohol is said to only apply for people age 30 and up. And I was, of course, not talking about persons enjoying a good glass of red every now and again, but more the youth culture of binge drinking. I don’t shun alcohol in any and all instances, mostly the abuse of it (say > 3 glasses). What I won;t ever agree on, though, is alcohol being beneficial for heart disease prevention. Sure, alcohol may have some beneficial properties, but nothing good diet, healthy weight & exercise can’t also do for you, without the downsides of alcohol
! But again, if you eat moderately healthy, are a healthy weight and exercise regularly, than a glas of vino won’t hurt & can indeed be beneficial! I think it’s just worthy to mention that even though alcohol may reduce the risk for heart disease (when combined with healthy lifestyle and drank moderately), it does increase your change of cancer. Exercise & healthy diet won’t 
. Ps: the tannins in alcohol are also found in tea, especially green tea!
love a fellow r.d around hehe. brain train!
great postt- so much info! I do drink, but honestly i only drink if Im at a party and wnt to feel the effects.. i know.. thats bad.. but i do it like less than once a month really- i really dnt find pleasure in drinking… empty calories!
Wat een herkenbaarheid! Ik drink al enkele jaren weinig alcohol, met af en toe wat alcoholvrije maanden. Ook ik heb vaak de vraag gehad waarom ik geen/weinig alcohol dronk. Iemand heeft zelfs wel eens gevraagd of ik een feestje, waar ik toen was, wel leuk vond, want ik had immers geen drup drank gehad?! Gek he, dat het drinken van alcoholische dranken zo sociaal geaccepteerd en ‘done’ is, dat het niet-drinken als sociaal oneengepast en ongezellig wordt beschouwd. Soms voelen mensen zich wel eens opgelaten als zij wel een drankje drinken in een café en ik tegenover hen zit met een glaasje water: alsof ze met hun eigen gedrag geconfronteerd worden omdat ik niet drink.
Wel wat een lange post geworden, maar ik herken dit dus heel erg in mijn omgeving en het is fijn dat ik hier mijn ei kwijt kan
Haha jezus, echt?! Wat een vraag. Ik heb ook wel eens opmerkingen gekregen als lekker gezellig ofzo. Ik ben ook een keer met een hele groep uitgeweest waarvan ik de enige was die nuchter was, maar niemand die dat doorhad omdat ik me net zo vermaakte als hen.
Ja ik heb dat laatste vooral veel gemerkt toen ik veganistisch ging eten, heel veel mensen reageerden alsof ik ze persoonlijk had aangevallen, heel vreemd. Werd daar best verdrietig van, ik wil alleen maar iets goeds doen voor de dieren en de wereld, en dan wordt ik behandeld alsof ik mensen respectloos behandel. Ook met mn vriend over gehad, dat ik dat zo raar vond en mensen helemaal niet persoonlijk aanviel, en toen zei hij: eigenlijk wel. Jouw keuzes, jouw normen en waarden, zeggen toch iets hoe je over anderen denkt, of in ieder geval hun acties. Dat zette me wel even aan het denken. Ik moet bekennen: ja, ik vind de acties van anderen soms waardeloos, maar iemand daar echt over veroordelen doe ik niet. 1 keuze maakt nog geen persoonlijkheid.
Mijn vriend zegt ook wel eens dat ik van mijn zogenaamde high horse af moet komen. Hij bedoelt dat verder niet lullig, hij houdt me op die manier juist een spiegel voor met betrekking tot hoe ik anderen ‘behandel’. Als ik wel eens uitleg waarom ik geen smaakversterkers eet, bijvoorbeeld, krijg ik soms een sneer met een lachje terug, maar soms voelen mensen zich ook echt aangevallen. Inderdaad alsof mijn keuzes een indirecte aanval zijn op hun keuzes. En ergens is het ook wel zo natuurlijk. Je kunt kritiek leveren op mensen die wel vlees eten, want: zielig voor de dieren, etc., maar dat wat ‘wij doen’ kan natuurlijk nooit als fout bestempeld worden. Als je moet kiezen tussen dieren eten of geen dieren eten, staan wij altijd aan de juiste kant. Hetzelfde voor roken-niet roken. Snap je een beetje wat ik bedoel? Ik veroordeel anderen ook nooit (in ieder geval niet waar ze bij zijn, tralalala), maar ergens veroordelen mijn keuzes wel hun keuzes. Ofzo. :’)
Loved this post, I find you always touch some pretty crucial subjects. I mostly quit drinking some months ago and it is one of the best decicion I’ve ever made!
I wrote up a long comment, but in the end I couldn’t post it. Would just like to thank you for mentioning this, and I feel exactly the same.
It’s funny, I used never drink in High School and through most of College but now that I am older I have a glass of red wine with almost every dinner (about 5 days a week). For me it enhances the meal, I love the feeling of holding a glass of wine, and I really enjoy the taste. It has also been proven that a glass of red a day has health benefits, but I would probably have the wine anyway.
Ik drink zelf geen alcohol, omdat ik twee ouders heb die aardig wat drinken en één zelfs een stuk meer dan aardig wat en regelmatig het ziekenhuis in en uit gaat omdat zijn lichaam het niet meer trekt en het waarschijnlijk niet lang meer zal volhouden.
Ondanks dat ik goed weet dat het drinken van een enkel glas nog niet deze gevolgen hoeft op te leveren, voel ik me erg onprettig bij het idee alcohol in mijn lichaam te hebben.
Echter merk ik toch wel erg vaak dat alcohol als dusdanig de ‘norm’ beschouwd te worden, dat je als raar of gek of saai wordt aangezien als je niet drinkt.
Waar ik vooral veel problemen mee heb, zijn mensen die het niet lijken te accepteren en steeds maar blijven vragen of ze je toch iets kunnen aanbieden.
Interesting topic! Hm, I’m not a non-drinker per say, but I think it has been half a year since my last alcohol drink. I’m very picky when it comes to drinks and I’ve only tried a few, so I have a constant (vodka) and I’m fine with just having one or two. However, I’ve found that people tend to push so much pressure on you to drink more and more. I don’t know, I feel like they are uncomfortable with someone being sober while they’re getting wasted? I really don’t care whether other people drink or not, but I hate it when they pick on me for not wanting more. With me changing my way of life to a healthier one, alcohol fits even less into that. I’m not saying I’m never going to drink alcohol again – if I crave it, I’m gonna have a drink, but I don’t see that happening too often. Besides, like you said, it’s probably easier to just go cold turkey than convince people that you’ve had enough. What worries/bothers me even more is the whole peer pressure when it comes to alcohol; people boast about how wasted they got and how much fun they had doing that (yeah, the night they can’t even remember must have been so much fun?) and you’re perceived as lame if you don’t drink. :/ I’m more than able to have fun and party alcohol-free and I think it’s really sad how nowadays people just can’t seem to get loose and have fun without alcohol anymore.
great post! I do enjoy a cocktail or glass of wine now and then, but it is getting few and far between. I wake up very early and like to get energized for my day… even two drinks the night before makes me lethargic… I just don’t like it! Much like the clean food I choose to eat, I feel SO much better when I am not drinking. The last time I said I was going to not drink for 30 days? It turned into 5 months!
i feel the same way you do about alcohol. i hate having to come up with excuses as to why i don’t want to drink most of the time! i just worry about the empty calories though, ick!
ps LOVE the informative posts.
Awesome post! I used to be a binge drinker and I used to do drugs but I don’t now. I raaarely drink {maybe once or twice a year?} and feel as though I just outgrew it. I think that when I started to get into health and taking care of my body it was hard to continue getting wasted on the weekends and spending my saturdays and sundays hungover eating fast food. Life is so much better now
I am SO glad you posted this! It could not have come at a better time. I have been cutting back on alcohol since the New Year, but my original plan was to cut it out altogether. I am somewhat embarrassed to admit that up until this year I’ve been a heavy drinker (since starting college at age 18). I am now 23, and the effects that I once thought useful (ex: making social situations easier to handle, I swear I’m borderline agoraphobic sometimes) from alcohol seem so debilitating. What did alcohol ever get me, other than lots of trouble? The answer is NOTHING! Alcohol has no doubt affected me socially and mentally, not to mention the years of damage I’ve put on my poor body.
The night before I read this I had gone out with my boyfriend who was doing the lighting for the band Digable Planets at a venue downtown. I drank a few beers and got pretty “silly.” The next morning I almost had to call-in to work because my head throbbed and my tummy hurt so much. I guess it’s because I’ve been drinking less and being all around healthier, but my hangover side effects were AWFUL. And I was thinking in bed (as I was lying there deciding whether or not I could actually manage to get out of it) that I was OVER this alcohol madness! Why should I poison and punish my body, because everyone else is doing it? NO! My body is a sacred temple, and I plan on treating it more so!!! Thank you for this post! Love and light!
Namaste’
<3 Sam
Maybe it’s a little to late to react on this item, but I was away for the weekend with a group of friends, so I have some catching up to do. About alcohol. Well, i’ve been bingeing occasionally since I was around 16 years old (now 28). I’ve been up, close and personal with the toilet way to often and said I’ll quit drinking like a hundred times. But, I still do drink sometimes, although I never drink when I have to go to work the next day. This weekend I’ve enjoyed some wine and I have to say, I somehow managed to keep it ‘clean’. I didn’t overdo it and that feels much better to me. I just like some wine occasionally, but I don’t like the side effects like headache, bad taste, feeling sick and most importantly: the feeling that I don’t treat my body the way it deserves. Sometimes I still think about quitting, but my friends and family will immediately think that I’m pregnant, haha! Off course that’s not the real reason. I just like my wine to much to quit, but I don’t want to binge anymore.
Thanks for writing about this subject!
It might be a little late to comment on this post, but I just had to react, as I have somewhat mixed tweelingstad about this.
I like my glass of wine and my beer. On the other hand, I off course know the negative side-effects all to well. Last year was hard for me, I was in a bad relationship and the BF is quite a heavy drinker (for all sorts of reasons I won’t hassle you with right now).
Anyway, we are both kind of creative spirits (both paint & write), and at first I liked those nights with a glass of wine, music, painting & writing. And of course, a little alcohol makes you somewhat more impulsive which can be quite productive when painting. But after a while it became just a habit. And as the relationship got worse, it became a routine that made me kind of numb.
The above is, of course, the downside. At one point I just decided that all this alcohol was just making me feel out of energy, tired, passive. It wasn’t as if I was addicted or anything, it was just a habit going to far (7 days a week 0,5-1 bottle of wine at least just doesn’t do anyone well).
Still, I don’t feel like not drinking or almost not drinking altogether. I enjoy good wine, with my dinner or just a glass late at night while reading. Or a nice cold beer in the summer. But I stick to 1-3 glasses max and drink only 50% of the week.
Whether or not that is healthy or not – I really don’t care, as long as I don’t experience any negative consequences (as I did when drinking much more) and enjoy doing it. I mean, health makes you feel good but so does enjoying yourself! I think it is a matter of balance – I would feel miserable when I would deny myself too many things I in fact enjoy.
I do agree with you though that the pressure for ‘social’ drinking is weird. You do as you do, and whether or not you drink is your choice. I háve asked someone who didn’t drink: “are you enjoying yourself”, but this was because I was worried she might be annoyed sitting there with a bunch of half-drunks (as half-drunks tend to be quite annoying to sober people
)!
One think I am working on is the amount I drink when going out. I off course drink more at those occassions, and I’m not sure what I want to do with that. Well, I do want to cut down a little ensuring I don’t get REALLY drunk anymore, but I don’t know if I want to cut down even more and stick to 3-4 glasses max. I dunno, I can only be honest here and admit that I also in a weird way enjoy being a tad tipsy with all my friends, as it ís funny to a certain degree. I’ll just have to think this trough a few more times.
I don’t know why, but my browser changed “feelings_about” into tweelingstad, lol
Don’t get me wrong, I am not a mormon.
Eerlijk gezegd schoot dat bij mij in het verkeerde keelgat. Je zult het vast niet lullig bedoelen maar ik drink nooit, maakt me dat dan meteen schijnheilig? Moet er dan meteen iets achter om je te verontschuldigen. Zo van o ja ik drink wel hoor, ik ben niet zo’n alcohol-loze doos hoor. Of je drinkt of niet is eigen keuze en dat is allemaal best. Daar gaat het me niet om.
Ik ben opgegroeit met een alcoholistische vader en broer en drink daarom niet. Ik zeg nooit tegen mensen dat ze niet mogen drinken, maar iedere keer als mensen er achter komen dat ik niet drink moet ik dat verantwoorden. Zelfs bij een stukje over niet-drinken komt er een “ach ik drink ook wel eens wat” achter het is nooit ik drink niet punt, en verontschuldig me er niet voor, zelfs als de betreffende persoon in feite helemaal niet drinkt.
En ja het ligt inderdaad bij mij gevoelig, dat gebeurt nou eenmaal als je zo’n klotejeugd als die van mij hebt gehad. En als mensen dat iedere keer dat je niet drinkt dat weer even aanwakkeren is dat niet fijn.
Nogmaals als je (met mate) drinkt ben ik daar helemaal niet tegen, als ik anders was opgegroeid zou ik dat waarschijnlijk ook doen. Begrijp je wat ik bedoel?
Hey Eveline, je hebt helemaal gelijk en bij deze mijn excuses! Als ik het zo terug lees haal ik ook eigenlijk mijn eigen punt onderuit. Ik denk dat ik het vooral schreef om bij degenen die weleens iets drinken (tegenover altijd) dat ik niet dat aansprak, maar de cultuur en pressure om drinken tegenwoordig. Maar inderdaad, helemaal niets drinken is ook niets om je voor te schamen. Eerlijk gezegd drink ik nu ook helemaal niet meer, en wil dat op zich wel zo houden. Dus again: sorry voor mijn woordkeus. Lijkt me ook ontzettend zwaar om elke keer met je jeugd herinnerd te worden als je een keer op een feestje bent of uit. En dat was dus het punt van deze post, er ligt teveel druk op alcohol these days, zo triest!
Lief van je, en ik ben al lang blij dat je er überhaupt over schrijft en weet ook wel dat je het zo bedoelt.